My Approach to Therapy
I believe the relationship between client and therapist is the most important component in therapy. You need to feel safe and seen in order to make the first steps of your journey. I use a non-judgmental, gentle style of therapy and am more oriented to meeting you where you are than slapping a diagnosis on you. I believe that it is relationships that harm us, but it is also relationships that heal us. It’s time to heal.
I utilize several approaches to therapy. I believe an integral part of all therapy is the search for purpose, and that purpose is found and created for each person, not given. We all have to ask the important questions, even if the answers may not even exist. I have also found that the narratives we tell ourselves have a huge impact on our feelings and our functioning, and that we are not often even aware of these stories. I help clients rewrite these narratives, in ways that are richer and more realistic.
I also believe that you are the expert on your own life, not me, and that change is inevitable. I like to focus on the strengths each client holds and the passions that make each person unique. This is your journey, and I’ll be your companion, perhaps bringing along a torch to light the way.
I’ve also found that expansiveness and openness is the ultimate key to succeeding in, and enjoying, life. Constriction, lack of flexibility and black-and-white thinking is the source of so much unhappiness and dysfunction. We live in constant fear and anticipation of unknown catastrophes, but most of them never come, and if they do, being relaxed is the best way to actually deal with them… and everything else.
The gap between the way things are and the way we want them to be is the source of much of human suffering, and this is where radical acceptance can be the key to contentment. Part of this work is also realizing you can’t control the world or other people, so gaining the maximum amount of control over your own self is usually the key to having your best day.
Please feel free to reach out for a free consultation!